My Mix Tapes

THE BREAK UP  MIX
For better or for worse, you know what the break up mix is about.
They can be bitter, angry, depressing, or sometimes even liberating.

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In The Absence Of Each Other - By: Matt - 02/11/08

Valentine The Destroyer - By: Matt - 01/23/08

Anthems & Anathemas - By: Joseph - 11/24/07

Tangled Up In Blue - By: Elayne R. - 11/21/07

Don't Think Twice - By: Joseph - 11/21/07


In The Absence Of Each Other

DATE: 02/11/08
SUBMITTED BY: Matt
EMAIL: matt@themissingplanes.com
LOCALE: Depew, NY
MIX TAPE CATEGORY: Break Up
MIX TAPE TITLE: In The Absence Of Each Other
OVERALL COMMENTS: 
Long story short, in 2003 I started burning a series of compilation CDs that collected songs from the best recordings I had recently heard. The series was eventually given the name Big Meaningless (a phrase the talented Chris Zerby, singer, guitarist and songwriter in Helicopter Helicopter, and now Hello Dragon, coined to describe pop music), and though there is no set schedule for when a new BM disc is made, I’ve managed to put together over 13 volumes that cull tracks from recent rock CDs that have been given to me or I’ve bought. The list of Big Meaningless “subscribers” – those who have asked to receive copies of the CD-Rs whenever I burn a new one – has grown to around 35. In 2006, after a few acrimonious break-ups, I introduced what I initially intended to be an annual feature in the Big Meaningless series, an anti-Valentine’s Day mix dubbed “Valentine The Destroyer.”
That disc (with songs from throughout the vast history of rock music) turned out pretty good; good and angry, good and sad, good and bitter…you get the idea. And in my mind the songs on it captured the true nature of the seductive, duplicitous, ruthless beast called love. The full track listing for “Valentine The Destroyer” is elsewhere on this site. So, I went ahead and made another anti-Valentine’s disc last year that was named “Cupid Must Die – Valentine The Destroyer Part II.” But this year I’ve had a change of heart.
Have I fallen in love? Have I been fulfilled by blissful coexistence with that special lady? Not even close. I went ahead and made “In The Absence Of Each Other – Valentine The Destroyer Part III,” and it turned out pretty good; good and pathetic. At least that’s what I thought when I was listening to it.
Chisel (if you have the stamina) through the compacted, calcified crust of bitterness that surrounds the hearts of bastards like me, and beneath it you’ll find…profound sadness. Poisonous spew forms the shield for open wounds. And it’s sadness that leads me to do things like make vindictive anti-Valentine’s mixes. If I really didn’t care about February the 14th I wouldn’t acknowledge it at all.
As I listened to “In The Absence Of Each Other – Valentine The Destroyer Part III,” I considered what the message was that this collection of songs conveyed, and I kept coming up with the same one. It was, “Jennifer, Jennifer, Heidi, and Amy, in some way I still miss all of you.” Does that sound pitiful? Well it’s less pitiful than making public declarations about the injustice of love. That’s the conclusion I’ve come to.
Since I went to the trouble of making the mix, I’ll share its track listing here in case anyone is curious, which I highly doubt. I’ll be glad to make a copy for anyone who should want one, just e-mail me, but in light of recent revelations, I won’t be sending it out to the Big Meaningless mailing list.
 
SONG TITLE  -  ARTIST
Track 1: Looking For Someone To Love - Buddy Holly The Crickets - Buddy Holly: Greatest Hits - I'm Lookin' for Someone to Love
COMMENTS: "Caught myself thinkin' of you
You can't love me and another one too"
TRACK 2: Through With You - The Gentlemen The Gentlemen - Ladies & Gentlemen... - Through With You
COMMENTS: "Next time you call I won't be there..."
TRACK 3: Not Big - Lily Allen Lily Allen - Alright, Still - Not Big
COMMENTS: "Alright how would it make you feel if I said you never made me cum?"
TRACK 4: Love Sick - Tuscadero
COMMENTS: "Might love me better if you were dead"
TRACK 5: How You Went So Far - Frank Black & The Catholics
COMMENTS: "I wait to hear you turn the knob on that door
Can't take it no more"
TRACK 6: Restraining Order Blues - Eels Eels - Shootenanny! - Restraining Order Blues
COMMENTS: "Everybody knows that I'm not a violent man
Just someone who knows he's in love"
TRACK 7: Good Things - Holly Golightly Holly Golightly - The Good Things - The Good Things
COMMENTS: "I promise you that I never meant for you to believe me"
TRACK 8: Hung Up In You - Madder Rose
COMMENTS: "Maybe it's good, maybe it's not
I still find it sad we're not together"
TRACK 9: Back In Your Head - Tegan and Sara Tegan and Sara - The Con - Back In Your Head
COMMENTS: "Remember when I was so strange and likeable?"
TRACK 10: Baby On My Arm - The Broken West The Broken West - I Can't Go On, I'll Go On - Baby On My Arm
COMMENTS: "It's alright, you weren't that special to me"
TRACK 11: Do You Love Me Now? - The Breeders
COMMENTS: "Does Love Ever End when two hearts have torn away
Or does it go on, and beat strong anyway?"
TRACK 12: I Want Everything - Cracker Cracker - Kerosene Hat - I Want Everything
COMMENTS: "I'm waiting for you desperately..."
TRACK 13: You'll Be Sorry - Versus Versus - Hurrah - You'll Be Sorry
COMMENTS: "You're just a photograph now in my head
And I'll probably remember every word you said"
TRACK 14: War In My Head - The Verlaines
COMMENTS: "There's no place called heaven if you and I ain't been there"
TRACK 15: Opportune Moment - The Sheila Divine
COMMENTS: "At the opportune moment I swope down
Swing, swing, I missed her..."
TRACK 16: Severe - Fuzzy
COMMENTS:  
TRACK 17: Fruit Pie - Kill Creek
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TRACK 18: We've Never Met - Neko Case & Her Boyfriends Neko Case - Furnace Room Lullaby - We've Never Met
COMMENTS:  
TRACK 19: Everything You Did - Steely Dan Steely Dan - The Royal Scam - Everything You Did
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TRACK 20: One thousand Ways - Jason Anderson Jason Anderson (Wolf Colonel) - Something / Everything! - One Thousand Ways
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TRACK 21: Poisoned With Hope - Carolyn Mark Carolyn Mark - Nothing Is Free - Poisoned With Hope
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TRACK 22: Here We Are (Again) - plus/minus +/- {Plus/Minus} - You Are Here - Here We Are (Again)
   

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Valentine The Destroyer
DATE: 01/20/08
SUBMITTED BY: Matt
EMAIL: N/A
LOCALE: Depew, NY
MIX TAPE CATEGORY: Break Up
MIX TAPE TITLE: Valentine The Destroyer
OVERALL COMMENTS: 
Every year around February the 14th - though I hate to admit that the date bears any significance whatsoever - my maudlin, all-consuming bitterness takes over, and I compile a selection of rock songs that portray the true nature of love. That's right, the vile, vicious, ruthless, devastating beast that lurks behind the inviting facade that the worst of four-letter words - l-o-v-e - presents is laid bare in these songs packed with longing, regret, melancholic beauty. Wasn't it John Mellencamp that sang, "C'mon baby, make it hurt so good"? These tunes do. In these notes, melodies and lyrics lie the twisted aftermath of the sweetest dreams...enjoy. (This was the first compilation in my annual, ongoing "Valentine The Destroyer" series.
 
SONG TITLE  -  ARTIST
Track 1: If That's What You Want - The Figgs
COMMENTS:  Albany's bad boys of power pop - and one of the most underrated bands in the history of rock music - have made a wonderful habit of wadding up broken hearts, then hrling them back at you like a grenade. This rave-up kiss-off ups the ante on Cavern Club Beatles "Twist And Shout" freak outs, with Guy Lyons basically telling the girl who dumped him, you better be sure about this, 'cause there'll be no second chances. "Living with me is like living in prison/ Add and subtract, but can you handle long division?"
TRACK 2: Favorite Scar - The Gravel Pit The Gravel Pit - The Gravel Pit Manifesto - Favorite Scar
COMMENTS:  This Boston quartet (frequent touring companions of The Figgs) bring a bit of the swagger and swing of '50s crooners to this power pop gem which attests to the staying power an ex can have in your mind. "Most boys want to beat on girls with stones and sticks, I just want to break down with you."'
TRACK 3: Rocket City Send Off - 5wattbulb
COMMENTS:  This tune from Rochester pop punk juggernaut 5wattbulb perfectly captures what it's like to be devastated by a break up when it seems the other party couldn't care less. "It was a Rocket City sendoff, and as I prepared for lift off all she had to say was see you sometime..."
TRACK 4: Cold Hands (Warm Heart) - Brendan Benson Brendan Benson - The Alternative to Love - Cold Hands (Warm Heart)
COMMENTS:  This song sums up the confusion that prevails during the death throes of a relationship. That time when people want to believe, we can still work things out, but they know deep down it's over...and it's been over for a while. "Cold hands warm heart, we just need some time apart, and everything will be okay...And it really shouldn't be this hard..." You may recognize the lilting beginnings of this cool pop number from a Lexus or Infinity commercial...can't remember which car it was...
TRACK 5: Being With You - That Dog That Dog - Retreat from the Sun - Being With You
COMMENTS:  Truly one of the most heart wrenching pleas for communication ever put into song. And oh, those three female voices in heavenly harmony. "I sit with emptiness waiting for your call/Will you still love me after the fall?/An open phone line, but I still hit your walls/And it's just like being with you"
TRACK 6: Thought Wrong - Holly Golightly Holly Golightly - The Main Attraction - I Thought Wrong
COMMENTS:  How easy it is to fool ourselves when it comes to matters of the heart. And how idiotic we feel when we realize it. What makes this song is the bitter contempt that creeps into the sadness and resignation at the end of the song when Holly sings "Now nothing's going to change here for the better/Nothing's going to change here." Musically it's semi-psychedelic garage throwback done masterfully.
TRACK 7: Losing End - Fuzzy Fuzzy - Hurray for Everything - Losing End
COMMENTS:  The ladies of Fuzzy (Chris Toppin and Hilken Mancini) do a nice job singing Neil Young's gentle country-folk lament. "it's so hard to make love pay when you're on the losing end, and I feel that way again."'
TRACK 8: Valentine - Old 97's Old 97's - Hit By a Train - The Best of Old 97's - Valentine
COMMENTS:  This is the song that gave the comp it's title - Valentine The Destroyer. A nice and easy blending of folk, country, and bluegrass underscore this musical cry of "Uncle!" "Heartbreak, old friend, goodbye it's me again..."
TRACK 9: Last Call - Skaros, Mank & Wild
COMMENTS:  I don't cry much. It's not because I'm macho or strong, I've just learned to stuff things down, and numb myself over the years. But, that being said, this song has often brought me to the brink of tears. Written by one of the finest song writers I've ever encountered (Jesse Mank of Hussalonia fame) to be sung by another of the most gifted writers, musicians, vocalists, and all-around enigmas anyone could hope to discover, George Skaros (of The Dollar Canon and Short Story Record Company), this one will tenderly choke you to death with your own heart strings. "So if I stand outside of your house much longer than I should, and you don't hear me ringing the bell/I'm just getting it through my mind that this is going to be the last time that you call me to your door."
TRACK 10: Darling Don't Worry - Thrush Hermit
COMMENTS:  A deceptively simple little ditty written by Canada's apparent heirs to the country's power pop throne before they decided to morph into a combination of Zeppelin and Sabbath, then break-up. This is straight-up power pop in the best sense of the term, Big Star meets Sloan. "I am the one who will love you evermore/You'll be the one who'll be showing me the door."
TRACK 11:  Do Us All A Favor - Tight Phantomz Tight Phantomz - Crazy When Wet - Do Us All a Favor
COMMENTS:  This Chicago trio pulls a page from the Urge Overkill playbook on this song in which the singer encourages himself to spare his friends the booze-soaked post-break-up gut spills. "I can't control myself so maybe I'll do us all a favor, start staying in at night."
TRACK 12:  Why Bother? - Weezer Weezer - Pinkerton - Why Bother?
COMMENTS:  The title pretty much says it all, right? "...it's just sexual attraction/It's not real so I guess I'll keep whackin'...Why bother? It's gonna hurt me. It's gonna kill when you desert me..."
TRACK 13:  Driveway To Driveway - Superchunk Superchunk - Foolish - Driveway to Driveway
COMMENTS:  I honestly have no idea what exactly this song is about, but it has the smarting sting of one who has just been wronged (not to mention the fact that it comes from one of the most brutally honest break-up records ever made, Foolish). "I don't remember this too well, but I still have the scrapes to prove, prove it was me who fell..."
TRACK 14:  The Brides Have Hit Glass - Guided By Voices Guided By Voices - Isolation Drills - The Brides Have Hit Glass
COMMENTS:  Famously noted to be about Bob Pollard's divorce, this one hits the chest in a sentimental way that few other GbV tracks do. "Again I'll roll the dice and try to hang onto my shrinking paradise..."
TRACK 15:  Only Cowards Walk Like Cowards - Containe
COMMENTS:  Hushed bedroom confessions put down on tape aren't for everyone, but if they interest you Containe is a band worth digging into the catalog of. Made up of The Pacific Ocean's Connie Lovatt and Versus' Fontaine Toups, they released two CDs in the mid to late '90s. Both records included tracks that were raw, honest, and poignant to an extent that was almost painful. " I wonder, did I get in the way? Where'd you go anyway?"
TRACK 16: Not Funny, Ha Ha - Lois Lois - Snapshot Radio - Not Funny, Ha Ha
COMMENTS: Lois Maffeo was one of the preeminent darlings of the low-fi, twee, K Records set in the ‘90s. Often armed with nothing but her acoustic guitar, impressive insight into relationships, and one of the sweetest voices ever, Lois brought more lyrical complexity and dimension to a style of music that was often silly in its simplicity. In this song she addresses the emptiness and disappointment that follows when a love affair fizzles out instead of imploding in spectacular fashion. “True to life is such a bore/ who the fuck said less is more/ visiting the battlefields of our beloved civil war…you don’t make me feel funny anymore.”
TRACK 17: Stupid Thing - Aimee Mann Aimee Mann - Whatever - Stupid Thing
COMMENTS: Aimee Mann is easily one of the best lyricists of the last twenty years…she’s no slouch when it comes to writing tunes either. On this song from her stellar 1993 solo debut Whatever she turns the tables on a potential lover who spurned her by showering them with pity. “…you stupid thing, speaking of course as your dear departed/ oh you stupid thing, it wasn’t me that you outsmarted/ oh you stupid thing, stopping it all before it even started.”
TRACK 18: Come Around - Rhett Miller Rhett Miller - The Instigator - Come Around
COMMENTS: Old 97s front man Miller sometimes wallows in his sentimentality to the point of being plain old sappy. But when you’re in a certain frame of mind (one that has you asking yourself “Am I gonna be lonely for the rest of my life?”) you can almost forgive him for his shattered heart transgressions.
TRACK 19: The Science Of Your Mind - The Comas The Comas - Conductor - The Science of Your Mind
COMMENTS: In 2004 The Comas put themselves in the running for the greatest break-up album ever made award. Conductor was the very definition of bittersweet, as scathing as it was sad, packing as much vitriol as regret.
TRACK 20: Walk Away Renee - Lotion Lotion - The Agnew Funeral - EP - Walk Away Renee
COMMENTS: A pretty simple, true-to-the-original rendition of The Left Bank classic. This may be one of the saddest songs ever written. “Your name and mine inside a heart upon the wall still find a way to haunt me…”
TRACK 21: No Heroics - The Bigger Lovers The Bigger Lovers - This Affair Never Happened... - No Heroics
COMMENTS: Another frontrunner in the greatest break-up record ever made competition has to be This Affair Never Happened…And Here Are Eleven Songs About It by Philadelphia power pop outfit The Bigger Lovers. On an album where every song is devastating in its own way, this may be the one that hits the hardest. “What has passed since last we had a laugh is more precious than gold.”
TRACK 22: Easter Day - The Bird Circuit The Bird Circuit - No Swingouts, Rockaway - Easter Day
COMMENTS: Any clumsy attempt I made to try and sum up a song this beautiful would be a total disservice to it. “…hate that you had to see that out there there’s a better man than me…”
TRACK 23: Mutiny - Tuscadero Tuscadero - My Way or the Highway - Mutiny
COMMENTS: On this, the closing track of their excellent 1998 album My Way Or The Highway, Tuscadero made its most assured and close to perfect musical statement. Singer and guitarist Melissa Fariss pulls the knife out and jams it into the one who jilted her with a sinister and seductive twist, similar in many ways to Aimee Mann’s approach on “Stupid Thing.” “Do your arms reach across a half empty bed to hold the one they knew?/ Maybe it’s me they seek/ I spend my nights trying not to dream of you.”

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Anthems & Anathemas
DATE: 11/24/07
SUBMITTED BY: Joseph
EMAIL: N/A
LOCALE: Buffalo, NY
MIX TAPE CATEGORY: Break-Up
MIX TAPE TITLE: Anthems & Anathemas
OVERALL COMMENTS: 
Each track is an anthem for the plethora of emotions one can go through when rethinking/reliving their jilted past. Overall it's a musically upbeat disc with lyrics like a rollercoaster through the hallowed halls of regret and relief!
 
SONG TITLE  -  ARTIST
Track 1: You make Me Want To Kill Myself - Hussalonia
COMMENTS:

This is a short and sweet little number from the always uplifting "4 Songs About Death" EP. Available for free on Hussalonia.com - Misery loves company, and 'Pop Does Not Mean Popular'. Plus, I always like to start off a mix with a shorter, more random song.

"You make me want to kill myself, and take others with me too"

TRACK 2: A Name Like Poison - Rainer Maria
COMMENTS:

An anthem for the random encounter. Regardless of where you live, it's a small world - Their name is bound to come up, or even worse - you'll randomly run into them at a bar/concert/grocery store. . . So sometimes his/"her name is like poison to your ears, so why do they intersect". This unreleased gem is a must for any RM fan, or for the jilted lover in all of us. Never actually released, you can find some handful of live versions from this now-defunct Brooklyn trio.

"Her name's like posion, to my ears
and noone really owns this town
can't avoid a certain street,
then unexpectedly uncover a reminder. . ."

TRACK 3: Shooting Star - Elliott Smith Elliott Smith - From a Basement On the Hill - Shooting Star
COMMENTS: Wow - Anthem of scorn! i'm glad i've never been on the receiving end of words like these- from the posthumous "From a Basement on the Hill"

"You’ll make the scene like you always do
Going upstream down the avenue
To fuck some trophy boy that you won tonight at the bar
So bad, so far, you’ll make him sad, shooting star
When it was me, I was momentarily proud
I’m drunk on dreams now, I’m glad I didn't say out loud
You said you'd be for real but I don't think that you are
So bad, so far, you make me sad, shooting star "
TRACK 4: Picture of Success - Rilo Kiley Rilo Kiley - Take Offs and Landings - Pictures of Success
COMMENTS: Long before "Into The Blacklight" there were a few amazing albums that were sweet and clever - they had a biting innocence to them... this track belongs to one of those albums called "TakeOffs & Landings" - impossible not to sing along with Jenny Lewis as she belts out these bitter 'frains built on unending frustration.


"I've had it with you, and Mexico can fucking wait
And all of those French films about trains
Cuz I'm not scared, but I'd like some extra spare time
I'm not scared, but the bills keep changing colors
. . .
They say California is a recipe for a black hole
And I say I've got my best shoes on, I'm ready to go
Ready to go, ready to go, I'm ready to go
Ready to go, ready to go, I'm ready to go
These are times that can't be weathered
and we have never been back there since then "
TRACK 5: Album of The Year - The Goodlife The Good Life - Album of the Year - Album of the Year
COMMENTS: From the LP of the same name, this track is alternatively titled "April". Why? Because the album consists of 12 songs, all chronicling the rise and fall of a relationship - all related to a specific time fo year. It's a very strong release; my personal favorite Tim Kasher (of Cursive fame) effort.

"She got a job at Jacob’s
Serving cocktails to the local drunks
Against her will, I fit the the bill
I perched down at the end of the bar
She said, “Space is not just a place for stars
I gave you an inch, you want a house with a yard”
. . .
The last time that I saw her
She was picking through which records were hers
Her clothes were packed in boxes
With some pots and pans and books and a toaster
Just then a mouse scurried across the floor
We started laughing until it didn’t hurt"
TRACK 6: Go On - The Elected The Elected - Me First - Go On
COMMENTS:

A side project of Rilo Kiley's Blake Sennett - the Elected released the stellar debut "Me First" in 2004. From that album we have gems like "Greetings In Braille" and this track, "Go On". Have you ever had an ex tell you they are getting married? Regardless of how over them you are - It still kinda stings. Especially when she follows it with "i hope you have someone special in your life too".

"My old girlfriend's studing medicine. Would you save my life if I got sick?
'Haven't seen you in a while. How have you been? Of course if you have the right insurance, friend.'
And I think if we got back together again, you know, give it a run, you know you were my first love.
'You're very drunk and we were very young, I'm going to see this guy and it might be love.
Yeah, I think he might be the one.'
If you get married can I come? I gotta see this!"

TRACK 7: The Perfect Song - The National The National - The National - The Perfect Song
COMMENTS: Aptly titled anthem of nostalgia. For those "I wonder what happened to. . ." or the "what would have happened if" moments! From their over-looked self-titled debut.

"I'll never try to find you,
I hope you dont remember me, I hope you're not alone
and I dont want to know what your thinking
looking out the window, sitting there, sitting there just fucking drinking"
TRACK 8: Ghost of What Should've Been - Owen Owen - No Good for No One Now - The Ghost of What Should've Been
COMMENTS: If you've ever ended a relationship with someone you were living with, I imagine this song is for you. An angry anthem, for sure!

"What else in this fucking empty room reminds me of fucking you?
An orphaned couch where I spent some long nights while you went out with our friends.
What I wouldn’t do to be a ghost like you, to be somewhere new.
To leave everything, the way you left everything, reminded you of me.
One more week in this apartment, one more week of being haunted. "
TRACK 9: Don't Turn Here - Hussalonia
COMMENTS:

 Break up songs are often littered with allusions to travel - both are symbolic of escape, hope, etc... Also - travel anywhere (commuting) is habitial - people develop all sorts of idiosycratic quirks about how they get from place to place. So what do you do when those get taken away from you? Moving on - this song is all about nostalgia - perhaps my favorite Hussalonia track - as always, download it for free at Hussalonia.com.

"I pull out those old records and the sounds give me chills, i still hear your voice between the verses...
And if I had to admit it, yeah i'd miss your whole family way more than i'd ever miss mine.
No , don't turn here, no don't turn here - keep driving"

TRACK 10: Nothing Better - The Postal Service The Postal Service - Give Up - Nothing Better
COMMENTS:

A beautiful and bouncy duet with Jenny Lewis. This is really the anthem/anathema for all break-up mixes; "you're getting carried away, feeling sorry for yourself" - the awful truth of the break-up mix... but just because it's true doesnt mean we can't ignore it!

(male vox):
Will someone please call a surgeon
Who can crack my ribs
And repair this broken heart
That you're deserting for better company?
I can't accept that it's over
I will block the door
Like a goalie tending the net
In the third quarter of a tied-game of rivalry

(female vox):
I feel I must interject here
You're getting carried away
Feeling sorry for youself
With these revisions and gaps in history
So let me help you remember
I've made charts and graphs
That should finally make it clear
I've prepared a lecture on why I have to leave

TRACK 11: Failsafe - The New Pornographers The New Pornographers - Challengers - Failsafe
COMMENTS:

Allegedly this track was written as a love song, but post-break up and previous to the release Carl Newman got clever with some wordplay and turned into a beautiful break-up song. Infectuous beat, and vox from Neko Case make this one great for a number of mixes. From their latest "Challengers".

"Ready to bolt at the first glimpse of failsafe. . .
we both had a hand in it; you and me both, kid."

TRACK 12: Chelsea Hotel #2 - Rufus Wainwright Rufus Wainwright - Leonard Cohen: I'm Your Man (Motion Picture Soundtrack) - Chelsea Hotel No. 2
COMMENTS: Perhaps no one can rival the jilted love songs of the ladies man himself - Leonard Cohen. Rufus does a damn good job with this classic. From "Leonard Cohen: I'm Your Man", a great movie featuring different performers signing the songs of Leonard Cohen.

"I remember you well in the Chelsea Hotel
you were famous, your heart was a legend
You told me again you preferred handsome men
but for me you would make an exception
And clenching your fist for the ones like us
who are oppressed by the figures of beauty
you fixed yourself, you said, "Well never mind,
we are ugly but we have the music. . .
I don't mean to suggest that I loved you the best
I can't keep track of each fallen robin
I remember you well in the Chelsea Hotel
that's all, I don't even think of you that often "
TRACK 13: Take It Easy (Love Nothing) - Bright Eyes Bright Eyes - Take It Easy (Love Nothing) - EP - Take It Easy (Love Nothing)
COMMENTS:  A lesson for us all - one that we're bound to forget and keep forgetting. An anthem for the wise!

"Now I do as I please, and I lie through my teeth
Someone might get hurt, but it won't be me
Should probably feel cheap, but I just feel free
And a little bit empty
No, it isn't so hard to get close to me
There'll be no arguments, we'll always agree
And I'll try to be kind when I ask you to leave
We'll both take it easy"
TRACK 14: These Days - Nico Nico - Chelsea Girl - These Days
COMMENTS:

An anthem for the broken. This is a fantastic song written by Jackson Brown. Nico's version is perhaps most recognizable, but there's a live version from Elliott Smith floating around the internet that is really great.

"I had a lover, I don't think i'll risk anotheer these days.
And if I seem to be afraid to live the life that I have made in song,
it's just that i've been losing so long. . .
Please don;t confront me with my failures, I had not forgotten them."

TRACK 15: Quelqu'un M'a Dit - Carla Bruni Carla Bruni - Quelqu?un M?a Dit - Quelqu?un M?a Dit
COMMENTS:

French Singer/Songerwriter/Supermodel - soft, beautiful voice - this is off of an album of the same name. The songs are sung in french, but translation (or lack thereof) should not stop anyone from appreciating these songs.  The tilte translates to "Somebody told me" - I can't find an english translation but here's a taste:

"Someone told me that our lives are pretty worthless
They pass in an instant just like roses wilt. . .
and yet somebody told me
that you you still loved me
Someone told me that you still love me
Could it be true?"

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Tangled Up In Blue
DATE: 11/21/07
CATEGORY: Break Up
MIX TAPE TITLE: Tangled up In Blue
SUBMITTED BY: Elayne R.
EMAIL: N/A
LOCALE: Buffalo, NY
 
ARTIST  -  SONG TITLE
TRACK 1: The Mountain Goats - No Children The Mountain Goats - Tallahassee - No Children
COMMENTS:  A friend said this song made Leonard Cohen sound optimistic about love. A truly vicious, but also hilarious, diatribe from a guy in the worst kind of relationship who just can’t get out. It always makes me laugh out loud .
TRACK 2: John Hiatt - What’ll We Do Now?
COMMENTS:  Hiatt is a truly great lyricist and his breaking up song is filled with really chilling images and metaphors about the pain of breaking up .
TRACK 3: Mary Gauthier - Your Sister Cried Mary Gauthier - Mercy Now (Bonus Track) - Your Sister Cried
COMMENTS:   A very dark songwriter with a voice like gravel, but this one is dark in a funny way—about coming home from a disastrous wedding. “I’ll never know how you got into such a mess/Why do the bridesmaids all have to wear the same dress?” This is as funny as she gets but it’s spot on about a lot of weddings we’ve probably all been to.
TRACK 4: Nellie McKay - Sari Nellie McKay - Get Away from Me - Sari
COMMENTS:  Nellie is an original. A master of every genre of pop music, which she combines in a fast-paced, shifting of genres and topics in midstream style all her own. She is also funny as hell, even when—as in this song—she is angry as hell, mostly at herself. It a song of self doubt—a bad relationship with herself. You really have to listen because she goes really fast and changes subjects in a single line, forming a pastiche that really works. The last line saves the day.
TRACK 5: Harry Nillson - Don’t Forget Me Harry Nilsson & The Masked Alberts Orchestra - Harry Nilsson: Greatest Hits - Don't Forget Me
COMMENTS: Mariane Faithfull also sings this one about life after divorce—emotional and financial. Its both lovesick and bitter in equal parts—a good mix. Nillson, who died a while ago, wrote some wonderful little known songs—and this one hits home. 
TRACK 6: Ryan Adams - Everybody Knows Ryan Adams - Easy Tiger - Everybody Knows
COMMENTS:  Another bad luck in love song from RA. Nothing ever happens at the right time and he is too “out of control” to hang onto her. But while he comes off as a jerk (she says as a personal response to this kind of guy), there’s no getting around his lyrical talents. The images and metaphors—and the intensity—make it worth listening to.
TRACK 7: Jimmie Dale Gilmore - Baghavan Decreed
COMMENTS:  Gilmore is one of a kind; a country singer steeped in eastern philosophy, with more than touch of hippie still there. This one is almost too clever. Check it out—its fascinating. Approaching a relationship on the rocks in terms of stoned, philosophical musings.
TRACK 8: Bob Dylan - Abandoned Love Bob Dylan - Biograph - Abandoned Love
COMMENTS:   Only released on the Biograph set this is probably an outtake from the Desire album but its irresistible. Dylan at his whimsical best singing about trying to get out of a strange relationship. I heard him play it at a club once and everyone laughed in just the right place—if you listen you cant miss it.
TRACK 9: Jenny Lewis and the Watson Twins - Rabbit Fur Coat
Jenny Lewis with The Watson Twins - Rabbit Fur Coat - Rabbit Fur Coat
COMMENTS:  She’s always had a great voice; what would Rilo Kelly do without her? But on her own she proves to be an amazing lyricist—who knew she was so smart and clever. This one is actually abt her bad relationship w/her mother (partly autobiographical I’m sure; she was a child star). You have to listen carefully to get the full story. This is a sophisticated piece of work, structurally and lyrically, but it really grows on you.
TRACK 10: The Roches - One Season The Roches - Nurds - One Season
COMMENTS:   This is an abstract, clever, angry, song about trying to leave a toxic relationship. “I've got to get away from you/’Ill come and visit you in the zoo”—one of a songful of great lines. Could have been written yesterday. They are totally cool.
TRACK 11: Magnetic Fields - Busby Berkeley Dreams The Magnetic Fields - 69 Love Songs - Busby Berkeley Dreams
COMMENTS:  They are always clever in sending up old romantic stuff but this one struck me as less cynical and actually authentically nostalgic for the days when it was still safe for Hollywood musicals to be sappy. Not their best but probably my favorite .
TRACK 12: John Prine - There She Goes
COMMENTS: John Prine is just plain lovable. This song about a woman walking out is both painful—he couldn’t keep her—but also a really vivid picture of how much she hurt him. But as Prine fans know, he can’t be dark or nasty. Everything is just too funny in the end. 
TRACK 13: Warren Zevon - Poor, poor pitiful me Warren Zevon - A Quiet Normal Life - The Best of Warren Zevon - Poor Poor Pitiful Me
COMMENTS:  Zevon was always a cult figure—that’s how he wanted it. Only people who really got him were worth writing for. But as Springsteen, in a concert a few days after his untimely death said, he was truly “one of the great American songwriters”. A lot of his stuff is slit your wrists music, but his wit is never far away and this is classic.. He is, finally, the great seer who understood the implications of LA decadence creeping eastward. He was right of course .
TRACK 14: X (John Doe and Exene Cervenka) - 4th of July X - See How We Are - 4th of July
COMMENTS:  One of the saddest songs about a failing relationship that is close to dead on a day when everyone is supposed to happy and you just aren’t. Been there/done that.
TRACK 15: Gillian Welch - I Dream a Highway Gillian Welch - Time - The Revelator - I Dream a Highway
COMMENTS: One of the most hauntingly Dylanesque alt-country songs ever written. The chorus is about wanting the guy back, but the verses, each one more chilling and dark than the last, are in direct counterpoint. Warning: a lot of references to country music history—but you don’t need to catch them to be haunted by this beautiful song.  
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Don't Think Twice. . .

DATE: 11/21/07
CATEGORY: Break Up
MIX TAPE TITLE: "Don't Think Twice..."
SUBMITTED BY: Joseph
EMAIL: N/A
LOCALE: Buffalo, NY
 
ARTIST  -  SONG TITLE
TRACK 1: The Magnetic Fields - How Fucking Romantic The Magnetic Fields - 69 Love Songs - How Fucking Romantic
COMMENTS: 69 Love Songs - brilliant!
TRACK 2: Stars - You're Ex-Lover is Dead Stars - Set Yourself On Fire - Your Ex-Lover Is Dead
COMMENTS: Tells the perfect story of not remembering someone you probably want to forget. "Live through this and you won't look back."
TRACK 3: Pavement - Zurich is Stained Pavement - Slanted and Enchanted - Luxe and Reduxe - Zurich Is Stained
COMMENTS: "I am not one half of the problem. . ."
TRACK 4: American Music Club - The Dead Part of You American Music Club - Everclear - The Dead Part of You
COMMENTS: This song is brutal - great for the bitter breakup in everyone!
TRACK 5: Bright Eyes - Falling Out of Love at This Volume Bright Eyes - A Collection of Songs Written and Recorded 1995-1997 - Falling Out of Love at This Volume
COMMENTS: The title says it all. . . Turn the amps way up!
TRACK 6: Hefner - The Hymn for Cigarettes Hefner - The Best of Hefner - The Hymn for the Cigarettes
COMMENTS: "How can she love me if she doesn't even love the same cinema that I love"
TRACK 7: Spiritulized - Home of the Brave Spiritualized - Ladies and Gentlemen We Are Floating In Space - Home of the Brave
COMMENTS: Great song with the signature Spirtiluzied build-up of noise. Lyrics are perfect for the self-destructing healing processÉ if that makes any sense.
TRACK 8: Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Cheated Hearts Yeah Yeah Yeahs - Show Your Bones - Cheated Hearts
COMMENTS: "Take these rings and store them safe away, I'll wear them on another rainy day"
TRACK 9: Metric - Too Little Too Late Metric - Live It Out - Too Little Too Late
COMMENTS: Emily Haines has sexy and sinister down pat!
TRACK 10: Willie Nelson - I Never Cared For You Willie Nelson - Teatro - I Never Cared for You
COMMENTS: From Teatro - an amazing album produced by D. Lanois, backing vox by Emmylou! Highly recommended!
TRACK 11: Bob Dylan - Don't Think Twice It's Alright Bob Dylan - Bob Dylan: The Collection - The Freewheelin' Bob Dylan - Don't Think Twice, It's All Right
COMMENTS: One of the most perfect (bitter) break up songs ever written.
TRACK 12: Elliott Smith - Somebody That I Used to Know Elliott Smith - Figure 8 - Somebody That I Used to Know
COMMENTS: From Figure 8 - when you don't really care to ever see that person again. . . simple, yet very well said.
TRACK 13: Tom Waits - Frank's Wild Years Tom Waits - Beautiful Maladies - The Island Years - Frank's Wild Years
COMMENTS: ". . . I never could stand that dog"
OVERALL: This is kind of a "I'm a bit bitter" meets "thank god I'm free" playlist. For when you just want to say 'you just wasted my prescious time'.

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